migrate to github.com/distribution/reference v0.5.0

The "reference" package was moved to a separate module, which was extracted
from b9b19409cf

Also update compose-go, which also switched to distribution/reference;

full diff: https://github.com/compose-spec/compose-go/compare/v1.18.3...v1.18.4

Signed-off-by: Sebastiaan van Stijn <github@gone.nl>

vendor/github.com/compose-spec/compose-go/types/project.go

@@ -24,10 +24,9 @@ import (
 	"path/filepath"
 	"sort"
 
-	"github.com/compose-spec/compose-go/utils"
-
 	"github.com/compose-spec/compose-go/dotenv"
-	"github.com/distribution/distribution/v3/reference"
+	"github.com/compose-spec/compose-go/utils"
+	"github.com/distribution/reference"
 	godigest "github.com/opencontainers/go-digest"
 	"github.com/pkg/errors"
 	"golang.org/x/sync/errgroup"
@@ -424,7 +423,14 @@ func (p *Project) ForServices(names []string, options ...DependencyOption) error
 		if _, ok := set[s.Name]; ok {
 			for _, option := range options {
 				if option == IgnoreDependencies {
-					s.DependsOn = nil
+					// remove all dependencies but those implied by explicitly selected services
+					dependencies := s.DependsOn
+					for d := range dependencies {
+						if _, ok := set[d]; !ok {
+							delete(dependencies, d)
+						}
+					}
+					s.DependsOn = dependencies
 				}
 			}
 			enabled = append(enabled, s)